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He would have been a great father!

in My Story on 06/16/19

I know my boys will have many “father figures” in their life, but it won’t be the same. I’m grateful for the men in our lives who will be there to fill that role. I’m grateful they will be able to teach them the things Justin would have taught, but its still hard. Its not what I pictured my life to be.

HIS FIRST FATHERS DAY (READ HERE)

During my sleepless hours in the night I lay awake and think. I close my eyes and try really hard to picture what it would be like to have him here. I see myself sitting on the living room floor with the boys sitting next to me. It’s 5:30pm and Justin should be home from work any second.

It’s been a long day being alone with the boys and I’m just as eager as them to have him home for the night. He walks in the back door and comes over to the three of us on the floor. He gives me a big kiss and kneels down hovering over the boys. I  imagine us getting the boys ready for bed together. He would be helping with baths and reading them books. We would lay in bed at night and I would tell him all the funny things the boys did that day.

I play make believe in my mind because now that’s all I can do. I have memories of our past as husband and wife, but not with him as a healthy father. A father who could pick them up and swing them around. One who could take shifts in the night when they’re crying. All I have is my imagination.

I don’t know how it would have been with our own boys, but I do know he would have been a great father. When we were first married we lived close to my sister in Utah. She had three kids and we spent a lot of time with them. Her youngest boy was born just a couple months before we got married. Justin and her youngest, Chase were super close and seeing them together made me so happy. Chase always wanted to be with Justin and he knew his name from the moment he could talk.

There was one particularly time I went to my sisters house without Justin and woke Chase up from a nap. I was so excited to see him and give him a big hug, but I was greeted with a loud “Justin!.” He saw me and automatically assumed Justin was there. I would always respond by saying, “no my name is Jenn.” I was always jealous he liked Justin more than me. I tried hard to win him over, but it never worked. The two of them had a special bond!

I’m beyond grateful I was able to see him with her kids. I was able to see what kind of dad he would have been. Whenever we were with my sister and her kids he would be outside ice skating with them, teaching them to fish, or taking them rock climbing. He even got up for night shifts when we had sleep overs and was always up early on Saturday making them waffles.

First fathers day without him

It almost makes it harder because I know he would have been so amazing. I don’t have memories of him doing these type of things with our own kids, but because of those moments with my sisters kids, I can get a pretty good idea of how he would have been. It was such a blessing we lived close to my sister and had opportunities to have these precious moments.

I just hope that we can get a chance to raise kids together after this life. I hope he can experience what it’s like to be a father. I want to have what was taken from me, a chance to be a family and raise our kids together. Until that moment comes I guess I will stick to my sleepless nights and imagination. At least I know he would have been a great dad! Its not the same, but we have so many amazing men in our lives willing to be there for the boys!

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  1. Gemma says

    June 16, 2019 at 3:19 pm

    My husband never got the chance to meet our daughter. He died 6 short weeks before her birth. Today, what would have been his first Father’s Day, is incredibly hard, perhaps the hardest day since he died. He would’ve been an amazing dad and I’m sad for me, my husband and my baby that we will all miss out on that. I have to believe that everything happens for a reason and that gods has a plan.

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  2. Iris Evanson says

    June 27, 2019 at 9:54 am

    I met your father at Stake conference this past weekend. (He gave two amazing talks and left us with an apostolic blessings.🙏🤗💖). We had a brief conversation and he gave me this blog address. I lost my husband of almost 42 years to pancreatic cancer in August of 2017. I would like to send you an email if I could. Would you send me your email address?

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    • cocoscaravan says

      June 27, 2019 at 6:35 pm

      So cool that you met my dad! You can email me at [email protected]

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  3. Tina Chaix says

    June 20, 2021 at 2:28 pm

    Hi Jenn,

    My heart is with you on this day. My kids are grown and have moved out. My husband and I have been divorced for 16 years but he had and still has been an active and loving father to our daughters. It has never been my desire to be divorced. So, I stand for the marriage vows we made to each other, and most of all to God.
    Why did God allow the divorce between my husband and I, and the cancer that took away your husband? The only thing I could think of, and bring comfort, and, perhaps, some sort of understanding is this; to bring out a greater good. God, in His infinite and loving mercy for us, could not have allowed the divorce for me and widowhood for you for nothing. I look at His Son on the cross and Jesus’ mother at the foot of the cross, Jenn, you and I are not alone in our sorrow and pain. Then recall, what happens after the 3rd day. Joy!!! God brings out good for those who love Him. He is always true and good every time. The way we lead our lives, being mindful of God’s will and way for us, will glorify Him. So, take heart, you and I, will see what God has up His sleeve for us.

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  4. Beverli says

    June 19, 2022 at 4:52 pm

    This was received so timely. My husband passed when our twins were 9 months old. My daughter spent 2.5 months in the nicu my son spent 4months. Then my son went back for a six week stay for heart surgery at 7 months and the day after I brought him home, my husband passed. I absolutely hate that he doesn’t get to be here to watch our children grow. I hate that we fought so hard in his cancer journey for it to end the way we dreaded. He was so grat at being a uncle and the few months he got to be a father, outside the hospital were amazing.

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  5. Ninette says

    June 27, 2022 at 11:55 pm

    Our lives are just borrowed time, you have an angel now to protect you and the boys…. and the boys are your living angels who will always make your life a colorful one… sending you a virtual hug….

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